Archive for the Attitude/ Confidence/ Head Games

Sunday clears away the rust of the whole week. - Joseph Addison
Had a very successful entrepreneur tell me that taking the weekend off was like a miracle. She experienced the energy of starting the week fresh. On Monday, she took care of issues that she’d been hanging onto for weeks. She felt more creative.
Stephen Covey […]

Fear of the facts is something that puts you in good company! Two weeks before she was slated to ski in the 2010 Olympics, Lindsey Vonn injured her shin.  In an interview that aired during the opening coverage, Lindsey admitted that she avoided having the injury diagnosed. She didn’t want an MRI. She didn’t want an […]

I wrote this post in January, never sure if I’d publish it. Yesterday, I learned that someone special in the world died, unexpectedly. As another friend described, it was “devastating”.  Just as in my post below, I’m freshly thrown off track. So I decided to post after all. Hopefully someone will find it valuable. Here tis. Too […]

When I hear this, my first question is always “too high for whom?”  My general rule is that unless you are priced far above every other lawyer, then business lost on price is business you shouldn’t be taking anyway. If you didn’t have financial pressures, you wouldn’t miss those clients, so don’t spend your time […]

It’s impossible to avoid the notion of goals entirely at this time.  I’m big on goals, but I know they can have as negative an impact as they do positive- depending on how you think about them. Still, it’s my first post of 2010, so you’re getting something about goals. Inevitable.
There are three kinds of goals- […]

Thinking about a tweet recommending a business coach as: “not the same old, same old business coach - she’s a professional ass-kicker”.  I’m inspired to say a word about ass-kicking. It’s not for everyone. Some great coaching clients have kicked their own selves black and blue to no avail by the time we have our first […]

The New Oxford Dictionary announced “unfriend” as its word of the year for 2009. You can hear the NPR story online. It’s worth listening- the very short discussion includes a list of words that didn’t make the cut, including my favorite, “trampstamp”.  (having to do with a tatoo in a particular location)
Enough about anyone else’s […]

The “I have to get that done before our call” magic is one of the most important byproducts of a coaching relationship.  It works like this:

You figure out what you want. (not always as easy as it seems!)
We strategize and agree to certain actions and behaviors that will get you what you want.
Working with the reality of your […]

The number of ad hoc “spot coaching” calls I’m fielding this summer is unprecedented. Most are calls from frustrated clients/former clients who feel they’re being pushed unreasonably, taken advantage of or treated unfairly. They’re telling themselves to stop taking things personally, but they can’t seem to break away.  When your reaction is emotional, pay attention. […]

Roll with the punches. You’ve heard it over and over and now again. Endless quotes exist. If there were a gift I could give you, it would be the ability to painlessly learn from failure. (note- first version was ”joyfully learn from failure”, but I decided that was stretching it a bit, had to laugh and find a different […]